Positve Steps in a New Direction

~photo by William Conk, in his yard

~excerpts form bob parks book

Life's challenges can become overwhelming, making us feel as if there is nowhere to turn and little we can do. Taking the first step after losing your job, ending a relationship, or recovering from health issues leaves many people feeling empty and without purpose in life. You need to not only decide to move on but actually take steps in the direction of a more fulfilling life. Taking these positive steps in the right direction can help you to rise up in down times.


Everyone struggles at some time in their life to find meaning. Right now, accept that you already have a purpose--living intentionally. Wake up each day determined to take advantage of all the opportunities this particular day has to offer. The night before, make a list of things you want to accomplish the next day, and from the moment you wake up, face them head on. Include work items, family things, and leave room for spontaneity…time to be "silly."

Life is simple, but we make it complex. Not only do we collect "things" that clutter our lives, we hold onto old fears, jealousy, anger, and the inability to forgive others. If we plan to move forward, we need to leave some things behind. Emotional baggage, like regret, can weigh tons.


The "go with the flow" idea only works if you're kayaking on a river. If you don't have a plan for where you want to go in life, how will you know when you have arrived? Create a "life map," with you in the center surrounded by all the places you would like to go and things you want to accomplish. Highlight the one ultimate destination, and visualize how each of the other things can take you there. People spend more time planning their vacations than they do planning their lives.

Do you really believe that you can have what you want in life? When you say, "This is what I want to do," do you really believe you'll do it? When you pray, do you expect results, or is prayer really a wish list?

Decide what you want, make plans to get it, and then expect that you will. That expectation is the most powerful tool you have on your journey to fulfillment.


Bob Perks is the author of the new book "I Wish You Enough" (Thomas Nelson, 2009), encompassing eight values needed for true contentment and happiness. He is a longtime inspiration contributor to Beliefnet, is a professional speaker, author, and vocalist. Visit his website at BobPerks.com.